Read the post, and then check out the selection of comments below:
I threw like a girl. I was a failure in high school. Had to attend summer school every year and took Earth Science because I couldn't pass the bio regents. Now my classmates send me their rent checks monthly. what a bunch of asshles.
With a slightly more positive spin (and one that I relate to better personally), this one was good, too:
I agree. I don't give my business to, nor do I socialize with, people who aren't nice on a very basic human level, not just to their friends or their social clique.
This was my LEAST favorite comment, except for the humor value:
Anonymous said...With all due respect to this anonymous poster (that is, very little), I don't think that most of us are bullies "to some extent." The breadth in comments on the post was interesting, and I can't help but wonder if those who think OrthoMom is making "a big deal out of nothing" were mostly bullies as children, and if those who support her were mostly bullied as children. It seems clear that nobody who was actually bullied thinks that it's not a big deal!
My take on the issues:
I think that girls use cliques to bully in the same way that boys often use sports to bully.
I agree that there is a difference between teasing and bullying, but am not sure one hurts the victim in a different way than the other. Teasing and bullying are both wrong and I think that the difference may be more a matter of degree, persistence, or how many people are ganging up on the victim than any categorical distinction.
I think that it is the job of parents, teachers, administrators, and community leaders to teach right from wrong. Doing anything less than that is abdicating responsibility for moral education, and once you've done that, you're basically letting TV and popular media educate your kids. God knows we don't like the results of that!
I doubt there is any way to eradicate bullying entirely, so anyone who is worried about what a world without bullying would look like need not fear.
So what's the point if it's going to persist anyway? As the subject of much teasing and some bullying as a child, I feel that a strong "this is wrong and won't be tolerated" message from figures of authority would go a long way towards making victim's lives more bearable.
I agree with the last commenter that schoolchildren bullying one another is not the biggest problem in today's world, but sometimes you gotta' start with the problems that you can actually fix, in your own community, before trying to create world peace or eradicate poverty or halt the spread of AIDS in Africa. Also, I'm pretty sure that bullies who continue on their bullying paths through adulthood create some pretty nasty problems on an international level.
Human beings also murder, cheat, steal, and rape. They do it today, they did it 50 years ago, and they most certainly did it 5000 years ago. But that does not make it okay. We have laws and religion and parents to teach us that these things, while possibly "natural," are not okay.
Thats really all Im trying to say here--just because it happens all the time, to everyone, doesnt make it okay. (Sorry, my apostrophe isnt working. Arg!)